A guide for advisors & estate planners

Alternatives to the dinner seminar

The free steak dinner still fills rooms. The question is who's in them, and what it cost to find out.

Updated September 2026

Where it falls short

It still works for some advisors.

You pay before you know

Room, food and invitations cost the same on a rainy night with a bad list.

Some people just come for the steak

Lots of advisors know the regulars who hit every seminar in town and never book.

It has a reputation

Consumer outlets warn people about free-meal seminars (Kiplinger's is typical), and regulators put out a joint report on "free lunch" seminars back in 2007. Some good prospects stay home because of it.

The alternatives

Smaller rooms, better people.

Client appreciation, bring a friend

A ballgame or a wine tasting where clients bring a friend. The friend comes with an introduction.

Check your firm's gift limits.

A class with no meal

Social Security, Medicare, getting an estate in order. At the library or a church. People who come to learn beat people who come to eat.

Lunch-and-learn with a partner

Co-host with a CPA or estate attorney. Split the cost. Agree up front who follows up with whom.

Webinars

Cheap and easy to record. Easy to leave, too, so plan the follow-up.

Groups you belong to

A church, an alumni group, a veterans' post. Give them something besides a sales talk.

A story invitation by mail

Invite them to record a family story instead of coming to dinner. We mail it to someone they love with your name on it.

Where VerbaPost fitsNo room, no food. $20 an invitation, 25 for $500 to start. When you call, you start with their story.

Doing the math

Use your own last seminar.

One number

cost per first meeting = everything you spent ÷ first meetings

Put last year's seminar next to a 25-person mail test.

Then check who became a client

One client beats three meetings that go nowhere.

Your old guest lists

The ones who came but never booked

They raised their hand once. Send them something that isn't another dinner.

Where VerbaPost fitsOld seminar lists are a good place to start. Check with compliance first.

Questions advisors ask

Do dinner seminars still work?

For some advisors. But you pay for the room and the food either way, and some people only come to eat. Figure your cost per first meeting before the next one.

What's cheaper than a dinner seminar?

Client events where clients bring a friend, a class with no meal, a lunch-and-learn with a CPA or attorney, webinars, family meetings, community groups, or a mailed invitation that offers something for their family.

How do I compare a seminar with mail?

Same number for both: everything you spent divided by first meetings booked.

What do I do with old seminar lists?

Those people raised their hand once. Send them something that isn't another dinner. Check with compliance before you use the list.

A VerbaPost family story letter printed on linen paper, with the advisor's firm name at the foot of the page
What the letter looks like. A family story on linen paper, with your firm's name on it and a code that plays their voice. Sample letter (PDF) · hear it

If you only try one thing

Mail 25 people from your last seminar list something that isn't a dinner. Call the ones who answer. Compare the cost.

How it works · hear a finished story · direct mail guide

General information, not legal or compliance advice. Run any campaign past your compliance officer first.

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